Why I’m such a book snob, and other thoughts on words

I recently finished reading this book called The Things We Do For Loveby Kristin Hannah.

It was pretty much as cheesy a book as the title suggests, but it was also one of those books that make you think. Not only that, it makes you feel. It’s one of those stories with those characters that just stick with you. I finished reading the book a couple of weeks ago, and still the characters and the words they said live in my head. I’m not going to say the book was great, because it wasn’t. The story wasn’t all that believable, and it wasn’t written in a beautiful way or even in a really good way. It was an average book. But, I think a book that stays with you three weeks after you’ve closed the cover has done its job.

I won’t go into detail on what the story was about. It focuses on a woman and a teenage girl who are both having a rough time about life. They come across each others paths in an unlikely way and as it turns out they are each exactly what the other needed most.

Like I said, not a fascinating story. The story itself was entertaining enough, good for a long car ride home from Albuquerque. But what drew me in, and has kept me in for these past couple of weeks, was the characters. They were so wonderfully composed.

Angie, the main woman in the story, is such a likable character. Even though in the beginning this character is kind of self-involved, and she can only see that one thing that she wants more than life, you’re rooting for her. She is kind and smart and beautiful, and down to earth in a way that doesn’t seem possible in real life. During the first chapter you find out that she has recently lost her father and her newborn daughter, and since divorced her husband. By the second chapter you can feel her pain. You want her to win; you want her to get what she wants and to live happily ever after.

It’s because of this character, this make-believe woman who is still occupying my thoughts, that I think so highly of this book.

Let me explain.

I’ve always been kind of a snob when it comes to books. I read for the stories, to a certain extent, but mostly I read for things that make up the stories: the words and how they are written. I love words. I love that they can be so beautiful if you know just how to string them together. I love how they can tell you a story so vividly that you can see it play out before you. I love that a simple word can mean so much in the right context. I love that they can make you feel something so much more than almost anything else there is. I love what you can do with them and what they can do for you. Simply put, I love words.

That being said, maybe you can understand what I mean when I say I’m a bit of a book snob. I read literature. I read for all of the things I mentioned above and am adamantly against anything that I consider less. I read books that I respect by authors that I admire. The books I tend to chose reflect the kind of writing I hope to produce. So I think that my being a book snob is kind of warranted; I’m only trying to become a better writer myself. But still, I’ll continue to explain.

I refused to read the Twilight books from the beginning because they read like a third grader wrote them. I won’t pick up a piece of chick lit or any sort of crime or law novel. And I wouldn’t touch a Stephen King novel with a ten foot pole.

It’s okay if you’re judging me. I’ll be honest, I judge people who read these kinds of books and think they’re great. I’ve openly admitted it: I’m a book snob. I have a problem.

But a funny thing happened about a year ago. I read Stephanie Meyer’s Twilight Saga, and I’m no longer ashamed to admit that I actually kind of enjoyed it. Don’t get me wrong, I still think it was horribly written and don’t respect Meyer’s work in any way; however, the story was pretty entertaining. I could take it or leave it, but overall I’m glad I decided to read the books.

Since then, I’ve decided to get off my high horse and work on my snobbishness. I’m starting to realize that maybe it doesn’t matter if books aren’t beautifully written. I made a pact with myself to just read books that sound good to me, even if they don’t measure up to my standards. And a lot of these books that I’ve read in the last year have surprised me by being really enjoyable and often very good books.

The Hannah book that I mentioned before is one that I never would have read in the past. Just by looking at it I would have passed it off as a dumb book. But here’s the thing: even though this book was pretty much everything I thought it would be, it was also a lot of things I never would have expected. I wouldn’t have expected to fall in love with the characters or to be thinking about it weeks after I finished it. And after reading it, and many other books like it, I’ve realized something: this is exactly the kind of book that I want to write.

While I hope to have the whole package, both a good story that is beautifully written and one that makes people think and feel, essentially it all comes down to the last thing. As long as you that one quality, the ability to make someone feel something, your words have done their job.

I don’t want to write books like Twilight, because let’s be honest: no one has ever felt anything after finishing the saga, except maybe those boy-crazy preteens who want nothing more than for Edward Cullen to turn them into vampires.

I guess what I’m trying to say is that I want to have an impact. Writing is the way that I know how to do this, and moreover, it’s the way that I want to do it.

The book that I mentioned before may have been all of those negative things that I said about it, but  it had an impact on me. And I think that’s all that really matters. At the end of the day, if what I write means something to someone, then I think I’ll be happy.

The words are waiting.

I saw a quote yesterday that inspired me to write.

The American poet and political activist Muriel Rukeyser said, “The Universe is made of stories, not of atoms.”

I wholeheartedly believe this is true.

Maybe I’m a romantic. Maybe I have a writer’s soul. Maybe I create nothing out of something.

Those things may be true. But what I know for sure is that we are not just bodies walking around. We’re more than that. EVERYTHING is more than that.

When I took creative writing in high school, we learned that stories are everywhere. There is no such thing just an empty park bench or just a person walking down the street. There is a story of why the bench is empty, of all the people who have ever sat on it, of the reasons those people got up. There is a story of where that person is going, and how they got to that very spot.

This notion is sort of like the idea of found art. At first glance, an object may not seem like something special. It is ordinary, nothing to write home about. It’s the artists job to show people that, really, it isn’t ordinary; it has beauty, you just have to look closer.

Stories are the same way. There is a story behind everything.

One of my favorite poems, A Valentine for Ernest Mann by Naomi Nye, supports my opinion. Nye writes that poems are every where, even in the eyes of two dead skunks. “What we have to do is live in a way that lets us find them,” Nye says in the poem.

I guess I really believe in this concept because I really believe in the power of stories. As a journalist, my job is to tell stories. They may not be story book tales, or have great dialogues, or even always have a clear ending, but nonetheless, they are stories.

They are stories of puppies that were born in a warehouse and rescued by a man who devotes his life to animals in need.

They are stories of two coworkers who died in a horrible car crash on the way to work one day.

They are stories of a woman who longed for a child, and became the mother to a brood of seven children from all around the world.

They are the stories of The Honeyman, who sits at the Camelback Market every Saturday and sells the honey that is his pride and joy.

These stories aren’t big, flashy events. They aren’t about famous people, or even likely characters. But they are so interesting and irreplaceable because they are real; because they let us know where these people came from and why they are..them. They aren’t about people or situations that would normally catch your eye, unless you were paying close attention; looking for the story.

That same creative writing teacher from high school once said to me, “The words are waiting…” And they are. You just have to be willing to go find them.

Today I am thankful for:

1. Christmas tree lots. They are one of my favorite parts of Christmas and I love seeing them on the corners when I’m driving around. They’re just so pretty, and they smell like Christmas.

2. Cousins.

3. My little sister. Need I say more:

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4. Indian food, and an excellent lunch date with my family.

5. My grandfather and the memories I’ve made with him. Today we celebrated his 74th birthday with a box full of memories. I’m so thankful to have been there to see the look on his face when he opened his gift.

That’s all I have to write about today. It’s been a long, busy day.

Thankful.

Maybe it’s because it’s that time of year, but I’ve been thinking a lot lately about everything I have to be thankful for. It’s a stressful time of year, with finals coming and the holidays nearby and graduation (and the inevitable job hunt) looming over my head. But I’ve been trying really hard to focus on all that I do have, thing that make my life worthwhile and the stress a little more bearable. Things that maybe everyone isn’t fortunate enough to have.

And I recently read this article on HuffPo that Oprah wrote. She talks about what gratitude can do for you. I agree with just about everything she says in the short article. Being grateful for what you have and recognizing each of the things you have to be thankful for just makes life better. Focusing on all that is good in your life and in the world helps make getting through all of the things that do go wrong a little easier. I think recognizing these things make for a happier life.

In the article, Oprah tells her readers that she tries to make a habit of making a list of 5 things to be thankful for each day. I think I might try to do this.

There’s a long list of things that I thank God for as often as I can remember to.

1. I’m engaged to be married to my best friend in the world and this incredible life lies ahead of us. I couldn’t possibly be more in love with him and I’m so happy with where we stand in our relationship and in our life together. I can’t imagine a life where we weren’t a team, and I’m so thankful that I’ll never have to.

2. I’m figuring out who my family and friends really are. And let me tell you, its an amazing list of people. There are my actual blood relatives who would be there for me no matter what, through thick and thin. Who put me in a better mood when I’m down and celebrate with me when the time is right.

And then there is my other family. Those that have been by my side since I was a kid and who I met in high school and since. These people are my family in a way that’s hard to describe, but in a way that I’m sure you know is possible. What they say about blood being thicker than water…it’s not always true. Water’s treating me just fine.

3. I have not one, but two jobs (technically three, if you count an paid internship that end on Dec 11) at a time when so many people are struggling to put food on the table. My jobs may not pay a ton and I surely don’t always enjoy them, but they’re jobs nonetheless. They help me pay the bills I need to and save money for the future. This is a hard one to be thankful for and something that so many people (myself included) take for granted.

3b. Last week I went to drop some canned food off at the Salvation Army. I’m not proud to say that the reason I did this was for extra credit in a class, but I am glad that I went. It was eye-opening. I was hit pretty hard by the amount of people, of families with little kids, that were filling out applications to get some groceries to take home (wherever that may be). The place was packed, little kids running around and stressed out adults trying to feed themselves and their families. It made me so sad to see this, but at the same time they’re getting help which is so good. I’m thankful for places like the Salvation Army and St. Vincent de Paul and all they do for those people sitting in their offices, trying to get food.

4. I just finished reading Anne Lamott’s newest book, Help Thanks Wow: The Three Essential Prayers.  And if you know anything about me, you know that I absolutely adore Anne Lamott. I could sing her praises all day long. I honestly think she is one of the best modern writers. And on top of that she is hilarious and has incredible insights and she’s the most down to earth person. She’s just so wonderful. And she has dreadlocks, which I think is really neat. Reading the book was both a blessing and curse (okay, maybe that’s a little dramatic). The book was far too short though and I finished it before I was mentally ready to. I wish I was friends with Anne Lamott. That’s something I’d REALLY be thankful for.

5. This semester is almost over. As stressed out as I currently am, with about 25 pages of essays due in the next week and two tests to follow, this is the only thing holding me up. My internship will end in eight days, my physical classes will be over in seven, and the tests in 11. And boy let tell you, I am thankful for this break.

Okay, so I listed six today. It’s hard to narrow it down to only few things. I guess maybe if I did it more often it would be easier. I guess we’ll see.

I was born to be a journalist.

It’s in my blood. There’s no denying it. I don’t think I’ll ever be able to shake it.

Tonight, a friend and I saw a large amount of flashing, emergency vehicle lights about a mile away from where we were driving. So I convinced her were should go see what was going on.

We were those people that drove by slowly to see what had happened. So there’s that.

(Great story after my last post, right?)

It was an accident, in case you were wondering. Not a bad one. Two cars and a train sign. I doubt there were any injuries, which is good.

People, not just stories.

In my short time at the Republic I have written about the deaths of six different people.

I deal with press releases and talk to police officer to try to learn the facts. It isn’t my job to tell the story of the people behind these events, that’s for other reporters to do. My job is to tell what happen in the shortest, most straight-forward way. It’s easy to lose sight of the reality of these event when you’re just being told the cold, hard facts by someone who is completely detached from the situation.

But the reality is that people are effected by each of the things that I report on.

A lot of people look at journalists and see these cold-hearted people who will suck the story out of innocent victims if it’s the last thing they do. The truth is, though, that compassion is necessary in a job like this. Especially in a position like the one I hold now. All I write about it tragedy. Car accidents and burglaries and shootings and drug deals and people going to jail and death… and the list goes on.

Someone asked me recently how I manage to come home each day and not be haunted by all of the tragedy I write about. And I hate the answer to this question.

The truth is, you have to separate yourself from the situation. You have to go in to each interview and every horrifying event not thinking of it as reality, but rather as a job that needs to be done; a story that needs to be written. You can’t think about the people that are involved or what it means for their lives. You just can’t.

When I took a class with Aaron Brown at the Cronkite School, all we did was talk about news judgement. He would present us with a sticky news story and have us decide whether or not to run it and, if we decided to go with it, how we would go about it. All of this stories dealt with the people that were affected by the news; what would happen to them if we ran the story and how it would impact their lives. I said no to running almost every situation he gave us. My answer was always that we’re dealing with people; real live people, and we need to be sensitive (to a certain extent) to that. He constantly said to me “Think like a journalist, not like a person.”

This is a really hard thing for me to do. I like stories; stories that involve people and their lives and emotions. This presents a problem for me when I’m at work.

But it’s just what you have to do. You need to block out your human thoughts and emotions when writing these stories. Because if you allowed each of these stories to work its way into your mind, if you allowed yourself to have feelings when dealing with the horrific things you reported on, the job would beat you down. You would become jaded and exhausted from the utter tragedy you dealt with everyday. And at that point, would anyone even want to do the job?

That being said, compassion still needs to be a part of the equation. Journalists need to realize that the people they are dealing with have likely just experienced something life-changing; or else why would they be in the news? Journalists should show compassion toward these people, they should empathize with them and try to accommodate their needs, while still reporting the story. I think it’s important for the journalist to not let the story effect them, to not let the sadness or the fear or the extraordinary details get to them; but it is just as important for them to be sensitive to the people who are involved in the story they are reporting.

Anyway. I’m starting to notice that heartlessness in myself. It’s not that I don’t care about the stories that I’m writing, it’s just that I’m starting to see them in a way that I never wanted to. I’m starting to look past the reality of what is happening and only see my deadline getting closer. I’m starting to not be affected when I call a PIO and ask what happened at a particular scene and they say two people were pronounced dead on the scene. That’s really not something that a person should just shrug about.

So I’ve made it my mission to get to know the people that I write about. Maybe there won’t be any way for me to find out about their lives; maybe Google won’t have anything or I won’t be able to find them on Facebook. But I think I should at least try. After all, these people that I’m writing about, they lived real lives. The had family and friends and jobs. They were real people, not just a story that I can put in my portfolio. And I think I owe them at least this much.

I’m sorry…! A second promise.

Alright.

I suck.

I made a promise (mostly to myself) in September to blog twice each week…and this is the first post since then.

I’m sorry. And I’m going to try to fix it. In my defense, I have been really busy, and this semester has been mentally exhausting. But the good news is that it’s almost over, and I’m rededicating myself to blogging.

So here’s my new promise…I promise to blog as much as I can. I’m not going to set a specific number of times per week or per month, but I will say this: I will write every chance I get. I’ll update as much as possible, even if it’s just a couple graphs. That’s all I can offer at this point. Making an official promise would just lead to me feeling inadequate, like I do right now after breaking my last promise.

That being said, here’s some updates from the last three months:

I’m still working at The Arizona Republic. I’ve learned a lot this semester, about journalism and reporting and the news, but even more importantly about myself. I love writing breaking news. When something is breaking, it’s fun and exciting and no two moments are the same, which is what has always drawn me to the news media. On the same token, I’m not sure breaking news is what I’m meant to do. As much as I love it, it’s also really hard for me to do. All breaking news is is tragedy and heartbreak for nameless people. I have difficult time separating emotions from these stories and writing them simply as breaking news. Of everything I’ve learned while working at the Republic, most of all I’ve learned that breaking news probably isn’t where I’ll end up in the long run.

We got engaged! And crazy, excited happiness ensued.

I’m almost done with this semester at ASU, which means I’m about to start my very last semester of college! I’m so excited to be done and to start my life in the real world, but the reality of it is starting to set in. And the reality of the real world comes with a lot of anxiety. Finding a real, grown-up job is one of the scariest things I’ve ever done. It’s terrifying and crazy and seems to be happening way too quickly, but we’ll be okay.

That’s really all there is to update.

The end.

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